Wedding or Elopement? What’s right for you?

January 30, 2023

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For many couples, deciding between a wedding and eloping is a difficult decision. Weddings are a time-honored tradition that mark a special day of celebration and joy with family and friends. However, eloping can be a romantic, intimate, and stress-free way to mark the start of a new life together. Also, let’s be real, when you start planning and realizing what a big effort it is, the thought of eloping on a mountain becomes more and more attractive ;).

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Things to Consider

When deciding between a wedding and elopement, it is important to think about what is right for you and your partner. Consider factors such as the size and type of celebration you envision, your budget, and the amount of time and energy you are willing to put into planning the event.

Both weddings and elopements can be memorable and meaningful, so be sure to choose the option that best suits your relationship. Whether it’s a traditional wedding with all the bells and whistles or a simple elopement with just the two of you, you can create a beautiful and meaningful start to your marriage.

How realistic is it?

It is also important to consider the practicalities of either option. A wedding may require more time and money to plan and execute, while an elopement may require more creativity and flexibility in order to make the event special. Additionally, both a wedding and elopement can involve travel, so be sure to factor in any potential expenses or challenges that may arise. Whatever you choose, make sure it is something that you and your partner are both comfortable with and that you both agree on.

Who do you all want there?

It is also important to consider the impact that your decision will have on your family and friends. If you are planning a wedding, your family and friends may be excited to celebrate with you and be part of the special day. However, if you choose to elope, it may be difficult for them to understand your decision and feel connected to the event. Regardless of the option you choose, be sure to communicate your plans to your loved ones and be respectful of their feelings. Additionally, will you be sad to not have people there, or is the thought of just the two of you the most romantic thing ever?

Also, keep in mind you can also elope and celebrate with a bigger group later. It’s not all-or-nothing, and you can choose a microwedding route instead if you want something in-between. Our clients, Amanda and Eddie did just that and it was perfect.

Even if you keep it small, you can still involve your family and friends in many weddings throughout the wedding day or planning process.

It’s your wedding!

Finally, it is important to remember that the most important thing is that you and your partner are happy with your decision. Whether you choose a wedding or an elopement, make sure that you take the time to make the day special for the two of you.

No matter which option you choose, it is important to take the time to plan and prepare for the event. If you are planning a wedding, consider factors such as the size and type of celebration, the budget, and the amount of time and energy that is needed to plan the event and how to make the guests’ experience memorable. If you are considering eloping, think about creative ways to make the event special and use that opportunity to also do a fun honeymoon in the same location.

Ultimately, your decision should be something that both you and your partner are comfortable with and should be respected by your family and friends. Sure, you may ruffle some feathers if you go the non-traditional route, but everyone’s always got an opinion and you can’t make everyone happy. If this is a major point of contention, perhaps a later celebration or microwedding is a great compromise.